Religious knowledge is a means of fearing Allaah the Exalted. Out of all the slaves of Allaah the Exalted,
the scholars are those who fear Allaah the Exalted the most. When the leader of the household is keen on
teaching their family the Book of Allaah the Exalted and Islaamic knowledge that pertains to them, then
they have placed them on the first path of safety from the Fire.
The Haneef religion (i.e., religion that inclines away from polytheism) urges people to teach their
womenfolk and guide them to correct manners. Al Bukhaari, may Allaah have mercy on him,named a
chapter: “Chapter: A man should teach their slave-girl and wife.” In this chapter, he placed the Hadeeth of
Abu Moosa Al-Ash`ari, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said that Allaah’s Messenger, sallallaahu
`alayhi wa sallam, said: “There are three individuals who have two rewards… A man who has a slave-
girl, teaches her good manners in a good way, teaches her in a good way, then frees her and marries her,
such a person has two rewards.” Ibn Hajar, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “The relation of the
Hadeeth to the chapter heading and mentioning a slave-girl is through the obvious text, but it applies
to the wife through analogy, since keenness regarding one’s free wives in teaching them the obligations of
Allaah and the traditions of His Messenger is more important than keenness regarding one’s slave-girl.”
Adh Dhahhaak, may Allaah have mercy on him, and Muqaatil, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “It is
a right on the Muslim to teach their family, such as their relatives, slave girls, and servants, what Allaah
the Exalted has made obligatory on them and what He the Exalted has prohibited for them.”So, we must
teach the religion, good things, and manners that they must learn to our children and families.
The religion has given women the right to being accorded special care in teaching. Al Bukhaari, may
Allaah have mercy on him, said: “Chapter: Can women be given a day in solitude with knowledge?” Then,
he mentioned the Hadeeth of Abu Sa`eed Al-Khudri, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: “Women
said to the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam: ‘The men have overtaken us in benefitting from you, so
give us a day that is convenient for you.’ At that, he appointed them a day when he would meet them, and
would admonish them and enjoin them.”
In the narration of Sahl ibn Saalih, may Allaah have mercy on him, who reported from his father, may
Allaah have mercy on him, who reported from Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, something
similar to this story, and in it, the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: “Your appointment is in the
home of so-and-so woman.” So, he went there and taught them. So, the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam, gave them a specific timing and place wherein he would teach them.
Ibn `Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported: “I went with the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam, during the day of (`Eed) Al-Fitr or Adh-ha, and he prayed, then gave a sermon, then went to the
women, admonished them, reminded them, and ordered them to give charity.”
Ibn Hajar, may Allaah have mercy on him, mentioned some benefits of this Hadeeth, saying: “It is
recommended to admonish women, teach them the rulings of Islaam, and remind them regarding the
matters that are obligated on them. It is recommended to urge them to give charity, and to do so in a
specific sitting. All of this should be done if there is no fear of Fitnah or corruption.”
A man should be forgiving and should entertain their questions and objections to what he says with a
smiling face. They should try to give them the information in the correct manner.
Ibn Abu Mulaykah, may Allaah have mercy on him, reported that whenever `Aa’ishah, may Allaah be
pleased with her, would hear about something she would ask about it in order to understand it correctly,
and that the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: “Whoever is thoroughly examined regarding their
accounting will be punished.” `Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “Did not Allaah the
Exalted Say (what means): "He will be judged with an easy account" [QUR’AAN 84:8]” He, sallallaahu
`alayhi wa sallam, said: “That is when the actions are presented. However, whoever is thoroughly
examined with regards to their accounting will be destroyed.”
Thus, there are some people who will be accounted in an easy manner. They will not be asked about
every minor and major sin that they did. Their accounting will end very swiftly and they will proceed to
Paradise. As for those who are examined about their actions, and are asked about all major and minor
sins that they did, they will be destroyed and punished. We ask Allaah the Exalted for safety and
Here we have `Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, despite being a woman, asking her husband,
sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, regarding issues that were confusing to her. The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi
wa sallam, used to answer her questions. Our women should follow in the footsteps of `Aa’ishah, may
Allaah be pleased with her, by asking about matters pertaining to their religion, and our men should follow
in the footsteps of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, by teaching their women.
Actually, ignorance that overtakes a wife, daughter, and sister due to the negligence of the man might
actually affect them even in their grave. `Abdullaah ibn `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported
that when `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, was killed, Hafsah, may Allaah be pleased with her,
cried for him. At that, he, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “Stop, O young woman! Do you not know
that Allaah’s Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: ‘The dead person would be punished due to
their family crying over them.’
Scholars have various ways of interpreting this Hadeeth, and of the strongest views is that they are
punished in their graves if they knew that it was the practice of their family to wail but neglected teaching
them regarding the prohibition of wailing and did not prevent them from doing so before they died. If that is
so, they would be punished in their graves due to their wailing over them, and this is a good interpretation
of the Hadeeth, and it reconciles between it and when Allaah the Exalted Said (what means): "No bearer
of burdens will bear the burden of another." [QUR’AAN 6:164]
A man must ask about the issues that their family needs to know but they do not know. We are very
pleased when we hear of men going to people of knowledge and asking questions pertinent to their
women, such as matters of purity dealing with natural blood, rulings of her relatives, whom she must cover
in front of, and whom she does not need to cover in front of.
Whenever a man does this, it shows that they are keen regarding their family, and are keen on
implementing when Allaah the Exalted Said (what means): "O you who have believed, protect yourselves
and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones" [QUR’AAN 66:6] So, they are certain of the
responsibility and feel it, which is why they ask regarding rulings for their wives.
At the end of this section, it is appropriate to give advice that the following matters be taught to the family:
As for the Qur’aan, they should be made to memorize whatever they need in order for their prayers to be
sound and can be used to be implemented during their lives, such as Juz’ `Amma and Tabaarak, Soorat
Al-Kahf, An-Noor, and Al-Hujuraat, while also knowing the explanation of what they memorize.
A student of knowledge asked a teacher before traveling, saying: “My teacher, what do you advise me to
do?” He said: “I advise you to stay connected with the Book of Allaah the Exalted through recitation,
reflection, memorization, and knowing its explanation.”This is one of the most comprehensive advice that
we should raise our families upon.
We must establish a close connection with the Book of Allaah the Exalted, and we should be keen
regarding bringing the Qur’aan and the Sunnah of our Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, alive in our
lives. Allaah the Exalted Said (what means):
"And remember what is recited in your houses of the verses of Allaah and wisdom." [QUR’AAN 33:34]
Wisdom here means the Sunnah.
In the field of Hadeeth, then the book Al-Arba`een An- Nawawiyyah should be explained to them, and they
should be urged to memorize it. In `Aqeedah, we should teach them an easy book, such as 200 Questions
and Answers regarding `Aqeedah by Haafith Al-Hakami, may Allaah have mercy on him,.
In jurisprudence, we should teach them the characteristics of ablution and prayer of the Prophet,
sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, as well as matters pertaining to women, such as Hijaab, adornments, and
issues pertaining to menstruation.
One should not neglect teaching the biography of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, especially to
young kids. Admonishment and reminders should have a specific focus in our lessons. The lessons
should not be turned into simply imparting information wherein the opinions of various scholars are
mentioned, but one forgets to mention the Lord the Giver. Many people are driven away by their dull
knowledge from finding mistakes and illnesses in their hearts. Hearts become rusty, and its rust is
removed through remembrance of Allaah the Exalted.
It is important that when teaching our children, the effort should be consistent and not inconsistent. The
class should have an appointed time that is weekly, and the entire family is instructed to attend and no
one may be absent. This class should be a regular occurrence in our homes for the lifetime.
Enjoining them to perform obligations and supervising them :
The head of the household should be diligent with regards to the obligations and following up with their
spouse and children. They should also be watchful over them to see if they are performing the obligations,
especially prayer. They should urge them to establish the prayer with its pillars, conditions, obligations,
and voluntary actions at their appointed times, especially Fajr prayer.
Shaykh `Abd Al-`Azeez ibn Baaz, may Allaah have mercy on him, was asked: “If a person has a class in
the mosque after Fajr, and they go out to the prayer while their family is sleeping, must they go back and
wake their family, even if they miss some parts of the class, or if they miss the entire class? Or, should he
sit in the class?” He said: “He must go back, because ordering his family to pray is obligatory, while
attending the class is voluntary.They should not give precedence to a voluntary action over an obligatory
one; he must go home and wake his family.”
The unfortunate reality is that people do not take proper care regarding the prayers of our families and
children and there is a great deal of negligence. Do you know, O guardian who is responsible, how to
teach your child to pray? Our children learn how to pray from each other. They all look at one another and
imitate each other. Besides, children are not taught the importance of concentration in the prayer and
implementation of the voluntary actions therein. We should ask why they do not learn from their fathers
Obligations we must be watchful over regarding our families :
The obligation of charity (Zakaah); some of our relatives might have wealth, jewelry, or business that
requires them to pay Zakaah. At that, we must admonish them to pay Zakaah, following the footsteps of
the Prophet of Allaah, Ismaa`eel (Ishmael), may Allaah exalt his mention, who used to order his family to
pray and give Zakaah, as Allaah the Exalted Said (what means): "And mention in the Book, Ishmael.
Indeed, he was true to his promise, and he was a messenger and a prophet. And he used to enjoin on his
people prayer and Zakaah and was to his Lord pleasing." [QUR’AAN 19:54-55] Also, the head of the
household must be watchful of their family while fasting and should help them in making up the days that
they were not fasting in Ramadhaan by fasting with them and urging them to be make haste in making up
We should make it easy for our womenfolk to perform Hajj and `Umrah and to organize our time to travel
with them in performing these two rites, because she needs a Mahram (male relative whom she cannot
marry) to accompany her in her travels. The husband must not stand in the way of his wife if she wishes to
perform the obligatory Hajj and has a Mahram. It is impermissible for him to prevent her from making the
obligatory Hajj. Also, she does not have to obey him if he orders her to stay back while she is able to go.
My Muslim brother: if you can enable your family to preserve their religion, then I congratulate you. Life is
truly amazing in a house where all of its members turn to Allaah the Exalted, obeying His commands, and
abstaining from His prohibitions.